FOREWORD:

FOREWORD:

"I know my thoughts are different from most of you who are reading this blog... So pardon me if it hurts your sentiments in anyway, because, it is not my intention... Well I would still request you, to not shut your mind completely and to think honestly, with out bias, or preconceived notions about what I have written and I am sure you will understand every word that I have written..." - ZaThinker

This space is dedicated to all the great people I have met or seen in my life and who have taught me everything that I know about life today....

From the paralyzed and immobilized beggar snailing flat on the dirty market street, picking up grains of rice with his tongue that was splattered on the floor by some ungrateful homo sapien who had too much, to the richest guy I have seen, who lives and dines like a King but is yet not satisfied in his life, From the rescued baby girl (I wish to adopt when i am more able or at least sponsor her in some way) at Missionaries of Charity who would never stopped being happy (talking to herself, singing songs and dancing) despite being blind, to the old women in the "Home for the Destitutes" who's children left them to die, but who still have the love in their hearts and have not lost faith in humanity (they ask my mom about me every time they see her and pray for me always). From all the strangers who hurt me or tried to harm me in some way or the other to the Women in my life who are the only ones who could come the closest to me physically, mentally and spiritually and so were able to hurt me worse than a stranger could.

LIFE TEACHES ALL: AND THE SMART ARE THOSE WHO LEARN NOT FROM THEIR EXPERIENCES & MISTAKES BUT FROM THE EXPERIENCES &MISTAKES OF OTHERS.... BUT THE ONES TRULY BLESSED ARE THE ONES WHO HAVE SOME ONE SPECIAL IN THEIR LIVES, TO BREAK DOWN THE MYSTERY OF LIFE, SOLVE IT FOR THEM AND ENLIGHTEN THEM ON THE TRUTH OF LIFE THUS SAVING THEM THE FRUSTRATION & TRAUMA OF DECIPHERING IT THEMSELVES...

UNFORTUNATELY LIKE ME, NOT EVERY ONE OF US IS LUCKY TO HAVE ONE...

WHAT IS MORE UNFORTUNATE IS THAT, I HAVE LEARNT ALL THAT I AM SHARING WITH YOU, ONLY AFTER INEVITABLY DESTROYING MY LIFE IRREVERSIBLY, AND IN THE PROCESS UNINTENTIONALLY AND HELPLESSLY HURTING MANY DEAR ONES, NOT BECAUSE I WANTED TO, BUT BECAUSE I NEVER UNDERSTOOD MY SELF OR MY WEAKNESS AND THE CONCEPTS/PRINCIPLES OF LIFE WHEN I SHOULD HAVE...

SO IF IT IS RIGHT TO LEARN SKILLS ONLY FROM PEOPLE/GUIDES/TEACHERS WHO REALLY KNOW THOSE SKILLS, THEN IT ONLY MAKES SENSE TO LEARN ALL WHAT ONE SHOULD NEVER DO, FROM THE VERY PEOPLE/SINNERS LIKE ME WHO HAVE DONE WRONG/SINNED IN THEIR LIFE AND ARE REGRETTING TODAY!!!

THIS IS NOT A PLACE TO PASS JUDGMENTS ON ANYONE BUT FOR US ALL TO LEARN ABOUT LIFE - THE MISTAKES WE DO WITH OUT EVEN REALIZING. THE MENTAL BLOCKS WE HAVE ETC... - ZaThinker


Sunday, August 23, 2009

True Virginity: Are You Really The Virgin You Claim You Are?

This post will constantly be update with the latest insights & observations...
PLEASE NOTE THIS POST IS NOT TO JUDGE ANYONE BUT TO SHARE A DEEPER INSIGHT INTO THIS UNIVERSALLY MISUNDERSTOOD CONCEPT OF VIRGINITY....

Fortunately or Unfortunately I understood about Virginity Only By and After LOSING IT....

Why All This Talk About Virginity?
Well the issue of Virginity when looked from various commonly debatable perspectives Biological, Romantic (Physically, Mentally, Spiritually), Ascetic is as follows:
  • Biological Perspective: the Need for a Mate not having contracted any possible Sexually Transmitted Disease Or Having Weakened or Worse Damaged Reproductive Organs because of any Previous Sexual Activities with Other Inferior, Unhealthy or Unhygienic Mates and the Inner Self Need of Being the Freshest and Healthiest Mate capable of producing the Best reproductive Gametes, Possessing the Best Reproductive Organs and Having the Best Development Environments For Their Offspring. This is entirely based on the Physical Act of Intercourse or Copulation.
  • Materialistic Perspective: of wanting New Things, Over Things That are Used, Worn Out and Old.
  • Physical Perspective (Romantic):
    What One Wants For Oneself: The inner need to be touched only by The One You Love.
    What One Expects From One's Lover: The Privilege and Honor To Be and To Have Been The One and The Only one, in your Lover's Life to have been able to touch (non-platonic) him/her ever since they were born.
  • Mental Perspective (Romantic):
    What One Wants For Oneself: The inner need to have thought, dreamt and fantasized Romantically and Sexually only about The One You  Love.
    What One Expects From One's Lover: The Privilege and Honor To Be and To Have Been The One and The Only One, in your Lover's Mind both Romantically & Sexually ever since they were Born.
  • Spiritual (Romantic):
    What One Wants For Oneself: The inner need to be Spiritually connected with only the one you love till one's Death.
    What One Expects From One's Lover: The Privilege and Honor To Be and To Have Been The One and The Only One, in your Lover's Spirit ever since they were Born.
  • Moral & Social: the Spiritual and Social development of Human Beings has given Birth to the Concept of having only a single partner for life, being Monogamous and being Loyal and defining Good Character as not being Physically/Mentally & Spiritually Involved with another before marriage.
    In fact Committing Unwarranted Meaningless Physical, Mental & Spiritual Violations (This will be covered in my next post) Mindlessly with countless people is considered to be Characterless and will make one no different from animals.
    This is not about Asceticism Because In This Case One Does not Abstaining from Love, Romance or Love Making.
    What One Wants For Oneself: One only believes in being Morally right, Ethical, Monogamous & Loyal with their Lovers/Spouse.
    What One Expects From One's Spouse: The Privilege and Honor To Be with a Moral, Monogamous & Loyal Spouse.
  • Ascetic Perspective:
    What One Wants For Oneself: The Need to Abstain totally from Love, Sex with the aim of pursuing religious and spiritual goals and Showing others that one is Virtuous.
    What One Expects From Others: To be inspired by the So Called Virtuous People.
    Ref::Wikipedia describes a lifestyle characterized by abstinence from various worldly pleasures, often with the aim of pursuing religious and spiritual goals. Many religious traditions (e.g. Buddhism, Jainism, the Christian desert fathers) include practices that involve restraint with respect to actions of body, speech, and mind. The founders and earliest practitioners of these religions lived extremely austere lifestyles, refraining from sensual pleasures and the accumulation of material wealth. They practiced asceticism not as a rejection of the enjoyment of life, or because the practices themselves are virtuous, but as an aid in the pursuit of salvation or liberation.

So Why Do People Freak Out Or Get Offended About Virginity?
Virginity is nothing to an animal, but has a lot of importance to Human Beings because OF all the debatable reasons mentioned above....

Interestingly Virginity is an Issue for many
  1. Who believe in being Virgin and are generally the ones In need of Virgins.
  2. Who Brag about being a Virgin and Judge, Ostracize and Demean and Make others feel Inferior than them and that they are Characterless Like Animals.
  3. Who don't believe in being Virgins themselves, but want their spouse to be a Virgin.
  4. Who don't believe in being Virgins, Hate Virgins and look down upon them mainly because they fear being looked down upon and being Judged, Ostracized etc By Virgins, For them not being a Virgin.
SINCE MANY (Superficial, Pseudo Virgins) CLAIM AND BRAG ABOUT BEING VIRGINS OR THAT THEY WERE VIRGINS TILL THEY GOT MARRIED, WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE TRUTH ABOUT VIRGINITY:
What is True Virginity?
Today for many Naive Souls, Virginity is just about Biological Virginity, which is based only on whether a male or a female has had intercourse which some claim to be detectable by Physical Examination but which has proved to be a wrong by Modern Medicine. For them it is ok to Naked in front of the person they are not in love it OR Ok be Touched, Hugged or Kissed in a Non Platonic way by a Person they are not in love with.

But the BITTER & HONEST TRUTH IS THAT TRUE VIRGINITY IS NOT JUST BIOLOGICAL (In Fact IT IS MORE THAN JUST THE ISSUE OF Intercourse) IT IS PHYSICAL(Romantic), MENTAL (Romantic) AND SPIRITUAL (Romantic) AS WELL... Loosing Either of the three means loosing your ROMANTIC, MORAL, SOCIAL & ASCETIC Virginity.

TRUE PHYSICAL VIRGINITY (Romantic) is When A Man Or a Woman has
  • NEVER PERMITTED/ALLOWED ANYONE to even Look/Touch/Feel/Sense/Taste/Smell etc (in short to use their sense organs) and Enjoy with Romantic/Sexual Intentions (even a millimeter of) THEIR OWN BODY (NOT JUST PRIVATE PARTS) in "The Way that Only One's Lover/Spouse Should Do And Is Allowed To Do".
  • HAS NEVER BEEN PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO Look/Touch/Feel/Sense/Taste/Smell etc (in short use their sense organs) and Enjoy ANYONE in a Romantic/Sexual way (even a millimeter of) THAT PERSON'S BODY (NOT JUST PRIVATE PARTS) in "The Way One Should Only Feel Towards and Only Be With, One's Lover/Spouse.
SO EVEN IF ONE DELIBERATELY:
  • (With Romantic/Sexual Intentions) Went Way Too Close To Another OR Allowed Another To Come Way Too Close 
  • Touched Another OR Allowed Another To Touch
  • Allowed Another To Caress OR Caressed Another
  • Allowed Another To Kiss OR Kissed Another
  • Allowed Another To Fondle OR Fondled Another 
  • etc, etc   
 ONE IS NO LONGER A VIRGIN


That is why a Person (with no romantic/sexual intentions) who is looked at and touched by a good doctor (with no romantic/sexual intentions) is NOT CONSIDERED to have lost his/her virginity as he/she is not striping to entertain or be entertained, or for other carnal reasons..... In fact he/she is only doing it, just to give the doctor a chance to cure him/her or save his/her life. 

 BUT Men & Women Who Have Flaunted their body, willingly and knowingly and let anyone other than the One They Love, deliberately enjoy (even a millimeter of) their bodies can never be considered to be a Virgin in the 'True Sense' even if they have never touched or been touched romantically/sexually or had an intercourse...

THUS CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF:
  • "People who are Raped and I mean ACTUALLY RAPED (Means not being a part of the act Physically, Mentally & Spiritually - (For the Rapist It should be like raping a Dead Body))
  • Being Looked At Unaware: while changing clothes, having bath etc By "Peeping Toms"
  • Touched without his/her knowledge (Eg: A person in coma being molested/raped)
HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT HAVING LOST THEIR VIRGINITY, CAUSE VIRGINITY IS NOT SOMETHING THAT COULD BE SNATCHED OR DESTROYED BY FORCE...... 

VIRGINITY IS DESTROYED THE MOMENT ANYTHING IS DONE WILLINGLY AND WITH THE KNOWLEDGE OF THE PERSON INVOLVED.

TRUE MENTAL VIRGINITY (Romantic) is when a Man or a Woman
  • HAS NEVER EVER THOUGHT/FELT ABOUT, FANTASIZED/WANTED/MISSED ANOTHER IN THE SAME WAY ONE WOULD THINK/FEEL/ FOR, FANTASIZE/WANT/MISS A LOVER/SPOUSE.
  • HAS NEVER INTERACTED (Talked With Out Limits, Shared Deep Secrets, Discussed Personal Problems) WITH ANOTHER IN THE WAY ONE SHOULD AND WOULD INTERACT ONLY WITH A LOVER/SPOUSE
So  if you Had even a Crush, Attraction, Liking, Inclination Towards Another YOU ARE NO LONGER A VIRGIN IN THE TRUE SENSE

TRUE SPIRITUAL VIRGINITY (Romantic) is when a Man or a Woman
  • HAS NEVER FELT SPIRITUALLY CONNECTED TO ANOTHER THE WAY ONE SHOULD AND WOULD FEEL SPIRITUALLY CONNECTED TO ONE'S LOVER/SPOUSE
So if you keep Missing/Needing (in a Platonic way) The Spiritual Presence of Another person the way you Should and Would Spiritually Miss/Need (in a Platonic way) One's Lover or Spouse YOU ARE NO LONGER A VIRGIN IN THE TRUE SENSE...

 TO SUM UP, ONE HAS TO BE A VIRGIN NOT JUST PHYSICALLY BUT MENTALLY AND SPIRITUALLY AS WELL TO BE A VIRGIN IN THE TRUE SENSE...

SO YOU STILL THINK YOU REALLY ARE A VIRGIN IN THE TRUEST SENSE??
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